Greetings everyone! I attempted to write about this two or three weeks ago and my computer crashed on me. So hopefully this time will work.
Before I write on this, it is extremely important for me to state the following: I am the most unqualified person to write on marriage and family. That’s because I’ve never been married before. Be that as it may, here are my thoughts.
When we were at Sunset, most of my classmates were married and had families of their own. A few got married while we were in school. It was very encouraging when I heard a few married classmates say “what good will it be to save the whole world with the gospel, yet loose our family” or something to that effect. While ministry and evangelism are very important, it is also very important for all of us to remember God made the family before He made the church. Therefore our first and primary responsibility is to our families.
When I was in school, I read and wrote a book report on a book called ExPastors (it was published in 1969). It was about some of the reasons why ministers of many denominations left the pastorate for secular work. Many of those reasons had to do with lack of respect the church had for their minister and his family, they had no time for their families, and many others.
I have heard of ministers taking their families on vacation only to be called and requested they return because someone in the church passed away and he was requested to do the funeral. Or on his day off. I’m thankful the church where my Dad has served has, for the most part respected Dad and our family enough in this regard. I would hope that any minister that gets a call like this while he is on vacation would be able to say the following: “I promised my family a vacation. My family and I need this time away right now. If the family wants me to do the funeral, they will have to wait until we return”. If anyone (even members of the church) can’t respect their minister, his family, and their need for time together, and vacation time then they should reevaluate their expectations of their minister. I’m sorry if that “offends” anyone, but that’s how I feel.
That even goes for ministers and their families living in a church-owned house. Church members may feel the right to visit the family at all hours of the day and night, and demand the house be used in a certain way like entertaining people there all the time, or hosting the church supported missionaries while they are on furlough, etc; the church had better respect their minister and his family’s privacy.
Like I said above, I hope this doesn’t “offend” anyone. Our families come first, even in the midst of ministry.
Any and all comments, questions, etc are always encouraged and welcomed. God bless you all.
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